Anger is a natural, human emotion. There is nothing destructive about anger. It demands our attention when our health is in danger, when a boundary has been crossed, or when someone takes advantage of us. However, how one behaves when angry may be either destructive or constructive. Being mindful when angry does not mean the anger is ignored, suppressed or denied. Being mindful does not mean that one behaves in destructive ways. Rather, being mindful when angry means a) recognizing the anger, b) labeling it, and c) choosing the best action to take.
Dr. John Schinnerer How do you get through the intense feelings, such as anger, rage and hurt, that frequently occur with separation and divorce? How do you move forward constructively? Here are the best ways to divorce with dignity while holding onto your financial savings, your cool and your calm. Understand How Anger Operates Emotions tell you whether or not […]
A difficult skill to master is letting go of old, stale anger. In this article, I will share with you a great anger management tool I teach my clients to release their anger. Old, stale anger is anger that we hold onto, often because no one has taught us to do any differently. This type […]
The top ten triggers for anger
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Dr. John Schinnerer Anger management specialist It seems reasonable to assume that angry employees are bad for business. But why? A new study shows that angry workers tend to behave unethically more often. And guilty workers tend to act more ethically. So if you are hiring new employees, you may want to factor in how […]
By John Schinnerer, Ph.D. At the gym recently, I witnessed two grown men get into a physical debate over the recent election results. One man was enraged over the fact that his old friend voted for Donald Trump. The Trump supporter was, naturally, defending his position. As the anger boiled, the Clinton supporter shouted, “We are not friends […]
The current race to the White House between Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump is the most rancorous and vitriolic I have witnessed. It is difficult to have a conversation with a supporter of the opposing candidate without it devolving into anger. In fact, the anger felt by some individuals is so deep and so intense […]
By Dr. John Schinnerer Don’t you love comedy? I love stand-up comedy. There are few better feelings than laughing until your sides hurt. My appreciation for improv comedy has grown over the years, (I’ve seen Whose Line is It Anyway twice live!), especially after seeing live improv at a local high school. I was impressed […]
People sometimes feel sorry for me when I tell them I work with angry clients. They picture clients screaming and throwing things at me, attacking me, in my office. Yet, this is (usually) far from the truth. My clients are rarely angry in my office. In my office, my clients wear a mask of rationality and show a calm demeanor as no one wants to admit to having anger which is beyond their control. Interestingly, psychological research has been slow to examine anger.
So what is anger? And how is anger different from other negative emotions, such as guilt and fear? Is anger always a secondary emotion, following closely on the heels of another emotion such as sadness? Let’s take a look and see if we can answer these questions.