Be vulnerable enough to share your internal world. For that is the path out of misery. Part of self-compassion is understanding that you are not alone in your struggles, in your suffering. And that shared suffering gives us relief.
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Dr. John Schinnerer was honored and humbled to be included extensively in an article on anger and health in U.S. News and World Report recently by Michael Schroeder. Here is a link to the article on the U.S. News site… https://health.usnews.com/wellness/mind/articles/2017-10-26/the-physical-and-mental-toll-of-being-angry-all-the-time Here are some snippets from the article… “Anger, like experiencing anxiety or stress, can serve […]
The question “How can I be happy?” has been asked by philosophers for 1000’s of years. Recently, positive psychology has taken a scientific approach to answering this question. So here are the top answers to the most important question known to humankind.
All of that thinking, all of the following what adults told me I needed to do to be “successful,” all of the daily ass-busting to overachieve, none of that made me happy, contented or relaxed. So what did make me happy? Great question!
Aristotle said, “Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” It fascinates me that, 2300 years later, we still wrestle with this difficulty.
Exciting new study just emerged from Dacher Keltner’s lab at U.C. Berkeley showing that there are 27 distinct categories of emotion.This overturns a long-standing belief within psychology that there are six categories of emotion a la Paul Ekman.
Clients frequently ask me about the daily habits of successful, satisfied top performers. “What skills can I learn to be more productive and happy?”, they ask. So here it is, as informed by 20 years of coaching top executives, athletes and intellectuals, the list of the top 20 happiness habits for greater success, resiliency and, of course, happiness […]
By John Schinnerer, Ph.D. At the gym recently, I witnessed two grown men get into a physical debate over the recent election results. One man was enraged over the fact that his old friend voted for Donald Trump. The Trump supporter was, naturally, defending his position. As the anger boiled, the Clinton supporter shouted, “We are not friends […]
People sometimes feel sorry for me when I tell them I work with angry clients. They picture clients screaming and throwing things at me, attacking me, in my office. Yet, this is (usually) far from the truth. My clients are rarely angry in my office. In my office, my clients wear a mask of rationality and show a calm demeanor as no one wants to admit to having anger which is beyond their control. Interestingly, psychological research has been slow to examine anger.
So what is anger? And how is anger different from other negative emotions, such as guilt and fear? Is anger always a secondary emotion, following closely on the heels of another emotion such as sadness? Let’s take a look and see if we can answer these questions.