Anger is common to all of us. It’s part of what makes us human. Anger is a useful, necessary ingredient in a purposeful life. However, in some of us, anger is dialed up to a high degree. When anger gets too intense, it may lead to constant irritation, feeling misunderstood, frequent arguments and even physical violence.
Be vulnerable enough to share your internal world. For that is the path out of misery. Part of self-compassion is understanding that you are not alone in your struggles, in your suffering. And that shared suffering gives us relief.
How do you best deal with your anger? And what happens when that don’t work? Some of the traditional tools for processing anger include exercise or breathing deeply. These are all typical tools to deal with frustration. But what about those situations when you just can’t get a handle on it? Here are the top 3 tools to help be less angry in your relationships.
The question “How can I be happy?” has been asked by philosophers for 1000’s of years. Recently, positive psychology has taken a scientific approach to answering this question. So here are the top answers to the most important question known to humankind.
Aristotle said, “Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” It fascinates me that, 2300 years later, we still wrestle with this difficulty.
Anger is a natural, human emotion. There is nothing destructive about anger. It demands our attention when our health is in danger, when a boundary has been crossed, or when someone takes advantage of us. However, how one behaves when angry may be either destructive or constructive. Being mindful when angry does not mean the anger is ignored, suppressed or denied. Being mindful does not mean that one behaves in destructive ways. Rather, being mindful when angry means a) recognizing the anger, b) labeling it, and c) choosing the best action to take.
The key to managing anger in your relationship is all about how well you deal with disagreement – what you do when you begin to get mad with your significant other
A difficult skill to master is letting go of old, stale anger. In this article, I will share with you a great anger management tool I teach my clients to release their anger. Old, stale anger is anger that we hold onto, often because no one has taught us to do any differently. This type […]
Recent studies show that chronic, long-term anger hurts the heart. The same is true for long-term stress. Chronic stress and anger hurt the brain, the heart and the lungs. It is critical to learn tools to handle them better.
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