Aristotle said, “Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” It fascinates me that, 2300 years later, we still wrestle with this difficulty.
This class has helped me in so very many ways. I’m so glad that I spent my money on this course to help myself to help others to improve all of these situations. So I am writing you to let you know that I do feel like I have improved myself through your book and through the 15 hour anger management course. I was very upset, frustrated and mad at the beginning but I got myself together, saw that it was someone else that was having a bad day and move forward, where before I would’ve exploded, blown up the phone, text over and over and over, and made the situation worse. So, I want to say thank you, thank you, thank you so very much for your knowledge, for your time and your help that you have allowed me to grow and to better handle myself in situations to help others and to help my health!
Anger is a natural, human emotion. There is nothing destructive about anger. It demands our attention when our health is in danger, when a boundary has been crossed, or when someone takes advantage of us. However, how one behaves when angry may be either destructive or constructive. Being mindful when angry does not mean the anger is ignored, suppressed or denied. Being mindful does not mean that one behaves in destructive ways. Rather, being mindful when angry means a) recognizing the anger, b) labeling it, and c) choosing the best action to take.
The key to managing anger in your relationship is all about how well you deal with disagreement – what you do when you begin to get mad with your significant other
A difficult skill to master is letting go of old, stale anger. In this article, I will share with you a great anger management tool I teach my clients to release their anger. Old, stale anger is anger that we hold onto, often because no one has taught us to do any differently. This type […]
By John Schinnerer, Ph.D. At the gym recently, I witnessed two grown men get into a physical debate over the recent election results. One man was enraged over the fact that his old friend voted for Donald Trump. The Trump supporter was, naturally, defending his position. As the anger boiled, the Clinton supporter shouted, “We are not friends […]
Learning proven methods to stay calm in emotionally charged situations is critical in business. Meeting anger with anger is usually a recipe for turning minor irritation into a full blown rage. Learning critical anger management skills to defuse angry situations is often a great way to advance your career, assist others and, ultimately, make yourself more valuable in the workplace.
People sometimes feel sorry for me when I tell them I work with angry clients. They picture clients screaming and throwing things at me, attacking me, in my office. Yet, this is (usually) far from the truth. My clients are rarely angry in my office. In my office, my clients wear a mask of rationality and show a calm demeanor as no one wants to admit to having anger which is beyond their control. Interestingly, psychological research has been slow to examine anger.
So what is anger? And how is anger different from other negative emotions, such as guilt and fear? Is anger always a secondary emotion, following closely on the heels of another emotion such as sadness? Let’s take a look and see if we can answer these questions.
By Brad J. Bushman Ph.D. When angry, count ten before you speak; if very angry, a hundred. — Thomas Jefferson When angry count four; when very angry, swear. — Mark Twain Anger is an emotional response to a real or imagined threat or provocation. Anger can range in intensity from mild irritation to extreme rage. Anger is […]
Dr. John Schinnerer Guide To Self Executive coach A difficult skill to master is letting go of old, stale anger. In this post, I will share with you a great tip I recently came up with to teach you to let go of anger. Old, stale anger is anger that we hold onto, often because […]