Anger is common to all of us. It’s part of what makes us human. Anger is a useful, necessary ingredient in a purposeful life. However, in some of us, anger is dialed up to a high degree. When anger gets too intense, it may lead to constant irritation, feeling misunderstood, frequent arguments and even physical violence.
Aristotle said, “Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” It fascinates me that, 2300 years later, we still wrestle with this difficulty.
Anger is a natural, human emotion. There is nothing destructive about anger. It demands our attention when our health is in danger, when a boundary has been crossed, or when someone takes advantage of us. However, how one behaves when angry may be either destructive or constructive. Being mindful when angry does not mean the anger is ignored, suppressed or denied. Being mindful does not mean that one behaves in destructive ways. Rather, being mindful when angry means a) recognizing the anger, b) labeling it, and c) choosing the best action to take.
The Mental Health Organization launched a report ‘Boiling Point’ about problem anger, how it affects individuals, families and communities, and what we can do to minimize the harm that anger causes.
Key statistics from the anger management report are:
• Sixty-four percent say that the world is becoming an angrier place.
Dr. John Schinnerer Anger management specialist It seems reasonable to assume that angry employees are bad for business. But why? A new study shows that angry workers tend to behave unethically more often. And guilty workers tend to act more ethically. So if you are hiring new employees, you may want to factor in how […]
Learning proven methods to stay calm in emotionally charged situations is critical in business. Meeting anger with anger is usually a recipe for turning minor irritation into a full blown rage. Learning critical anger management skills to defuse angry situations is often a great way to advance your career, assist others and, ultimately, make yourself more valuable in the workplace.