How do you best deal with your anger? And what happens when that don’t work? Some of the traditional tools for processing anger include exercise or breathing deeply. These are all typical tools to deal with frustration. But what about those situations when you just can’t get a handle on it? Here are the top 3 tools to help be less angry in your relationships.
Aristotle said, “Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” It fascinates me that, 2300 years later, we still wrestle with this difficulty.
Anger is a natural, human emotion. There is nothing destructive about anger. It demands our attention when our health is in danger, when a boundary has been crossed, or when someone takes advantage of us. However, how one behaves when angry may be either destructive or constructive. Being mindful when angry does not mean the anger is ignored, suppressed or denied. Being mindful does not mean that one behaves in destructive ways. Rather, being mindful when angry means a) recognizing the anger, b) labeling it, and c) choosing the best action to take.
The key to managing anger in your relationship is all about how well you deal with disagreement – what you do when you begin to get mad with your significant other
Dr. John Schinnerer How do you get through the intense feelings, such as anger, rage and hurt, that frequently occur with separation and divorce? How do you move forward constructively? Here are the best ways to divorce with dignity while holding onto your financial savings, your cool and your calm. Understand How Anger Operates Emotions tell you whether or not […]
A difficult skill to master is letting go of old, stale anger. In this article, I will share with you a great anger management tool I teach my clients to release their anger. Old, stale anger is anger that we hold onto, often because no one has taught us to do any differently. This type […]
The Mental Health Organization launched a report ‘Boiling Point’ about problem anger, how it affects individuals, families and communities, and what we can do to minimize the harm that anger causes.
Key statistics from the anger management report are:
• Sixty-four percent say that the world is becoming an angrier place.
Recent studies show that chronic, long-term anger hurts the heart. The same is true for long-term stress. Chronic stress and anger hurt the brain, the heart and the lungs. It is critical to learn tools to handle them better.
The top ten triggers for anger
Learning proven methods to stay calm in emotionally charged situations is critical in business. Meeting anger with anger is usually a recipe for turning minor irritation into a full blown rage. Learning critical anger management skills to defuse angry situations is often a great way to advance your career, assist others and, ultimately, make yourself more valuable in the workplace.
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