Anger is a natural, human emotion. There is nothing destructive about anger. It demands our attention when our health is in danger, when a boundary has been crossed, or when someone takes advantage of us. However, how one behaves when angry may be either destructive or constructive. Being mindful when angry does not mean the anger is ignored, suppressed or denied. Being mindful does not mean that one behaves in destructive ways. Rather, being mindful when angry means a) recognizing the anger, b) labeling it, and c) choosing the best action to take.
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A difficult skill to master is letting go of old, stale anger. In this article, I will share with you a great anger management tool I teach my clients to release their anger. Old, stale anger is anger that we hold onto, often because no one has taught us to do any differently. This type […]
The Mental Health Organization launched a report ‘Boiling Point’ about problem anger, how it affects individuals, families and communities, and what we can do to minimize the harm that anger causes.
Key statistics from the anger management report are:
• Sixty-four percent say that the world is becoming an angrier place.
Recent studies show that chronic, long-term anger hurts the heart. The same is true for long-term stress. Chronic stress and anger hurt the brain, the heart and the lungs. It is critical to learn tools to handle them better.
The top ten triggers for anger
Learning proven methods to stay calm in emotionally charged situations is critical in business. Meeting anger with anger is usually a recipe for turning minor irritation into a full blown rage. Learning critical anger management skills to defuse angry situations is often a great way to advance your career, assist others and, ultimately, make yourself more valuable in the workplace.
People sometimes feel sorry for me when I tell them I work with angry clients. They picture clients screaming and throwing things at me, attacking me, in my office. Yet, this is (usually) far from the truth. My clients are rarely angry in my office. In my office, my clients wear a mask of rationality and show a calm demeanor as no one wants to admit to having anger which is beyond their control. Interestingly, psychological research has been slow to examine anger.
So what is anger? And how is anger different from other negative emotions, such as guilt and fear? Is anger always a secondary emotion, following closely on the heels of another emotion such as sadness? Let’s take a look and see if we can answer these questions.
New study from University of Washington shows babies remember adults’ anger and attempt to appease angry adults.