Anger Management #1
The more I am moving ahead with your course the more I am astonished with the depth of your work. It is helpful for me both personally and professionally.
Thank you,
Dr Shaheen Islam
Professor and Chairman, Department of Educational and Counselling Psychology
Director, (In charge) Student Counselling and Guidance Office
University of Dhaka
Dear Dr. John
Let me take a moment to express my gratitude to you for your outstanding work. Your kindness has been helpful in many ways, but specifically in giving me a few new tools to use in my daily life. I read your book Guide to Self… and gleaned fantastic anger management tricks as well as ways to a more mindful way of life when anger slips in. The online video course is even more helpful! Thank you!
Be well,
Bill C.
Dear John:
My fiancee and I recently broke up. Before that, I was angry all the time because she wasn’t doing anything. It didn’t take much to set me off. However, due to your course, since we split up, I’m not stressed nearly as much. And since I started reading your book, I now have more patience. I’m also much happier!
Thanks,
Chris
Dear Dr. John:
Your book and course have changed my life! I learned that I did not really have an anger issue, but I did have a positivity issue. I only saw the negative in my life, and I put that load on the ones I love most. The images of the buckets of positive and negative thoughts will always be in my mind. Thank you for your videos and keep up the great work!
Justin A.
John Schinnerer Ph.D. Anger Management Expert Guide To Self Danville CA 94526
Free Online Anger Management Course Part 1
Also, be sure to check out John’s award-winning blog Shrunken Mind – Using Positive Psychology to Master Life (Named Top 3 on the web in positive psychology by Post Rank AND a Top 100 blog by The Daily Reviewer!)
And HERE is the article I promised on the 12 Most Powerful Tools to Instantly Turn Down the Volume on Anger!
Top 12 Tips to Turn Down Volume on Anger: The Very Best Anger Management Tips
By John Schinnerer Ph.D., Founder Guide to Self
Is your anger in charge of you? Is your irritability causing trouble at home? Are you held back from your potential because others think you are angry?
Anger is common to all of us. Anger and irritability are part of what makes us human. Anger is a useful, necessary ingredient in a purposeful life.
However, in some of us, anger is dialed up to a high degree. When anger gets too intense, it may lead to constant irritation, feeling misunderstood, frequent arguments and even physical violence.
It’s troubling because deep down you know if you could just manage your anger, you would reach your potential and be much more successful. You know deep down that your anger may be undermining your relationships at home and at work. What’s more, there may be some anxiety, stress and sadness mixed in with that anger as well.
What you’re really trying to do is learn effective ways to manage your anger, anxiety and stress so that they do not control you.
You know if you found proven ways to turn down the volume on your anger and anxiety you could be more successful at work and at home.
I’ve been asked by thousands of people, ‘Aren’t these skills that EVERYONE should know?’ And my answer is ‘Absolutely!’ The skills in this free online anger management course are necessary for everyone for pursuing personal happiness and professional success.
So here we go…
1. Breathe. Take a deep breath in through your nose for 6 seconds. Hold your breath for 2 seconds. Breathe out for 8 seconds. Breathe into your abdomen or belly. As you breathe in, your belly should inflate like a balloon. As you exhale, your abdomen should collapse or be pulled in toward your spine. Focus on breathing out all the old stale air in your lungs. Repeat 5 times. Anger locks you into a certain way of viewing and reacting to the world. Your breath is one of your most powerful tools to break the hold of anger.
2. Get out in nature. Take a leisurely stroll outside. Gaze at the trees, the clouds, the plants and the birds. Studies have shown that a mere 20 minutes spent in a natural environment has a restorative effect on the mind. Remember to breathe deeply during your stroll. In June of 2010, a study came out in the Journal of Environmental Psychology showing the vast mental health benefits of spending 20 minutes per day in nature. Twenty minutes surrounded by trees, birds, plants and fresh air decreases anger, increases vitality, energy, mood and happiness. One of the best ways to get feeling better is to reconnect with nature. Numerous studies have linked increased energy and well-being to exposure to nature. A simple wilderness excursion leads to increased feelings of happiness, less anger, and better immune system functioning. Immersion in nature is a necessary component to effective anger management.
3. Get up and stretch. Anger creates muscle tension. Anger locks your muscles as well as your mind in place. Stretching is another key to unlocking the angry mind. It relaxes tightened muscles. It improves oxygen flow to the brain which enables you to think more clearly. Stretching is an excellent tool for anger management.
4. Exercise. Studies show that individuals who exercise more than 20 minutes per day, sleep at least 7 hours per night, and eat healthy foods that are naturally colorful have reduced feelings of anger and irritation, higher levels of happiness and well-being. Have you worked out today? If not, take a brisk walk for 15-20 minutes (outside in nature of course!) to decrease anger, increase your level of happiness and satisfaction with life. Anger management skills include daily exercise.
5. Give yourself a pep talk! Say to yourself, ‘Hey, this is going to be okay!’ Ask yourself, ‘Is this going to matter 10 years from now?’ In most cases, the answer is likely ‘No, it won’t.’ Talking to yourself in an understanding, calming manner is another key anger management tool. Train your brain so that in annoying situations, you tell yourself, ‘I’m supposed to learn something from this situation. I may not know what that is right now, and that’s okay. The calmer I stay, the more likely I can continue making good decisions. I am a good person and I have nothing to be ashamed of.’ Another necessary self-talk line is ‘I can do this.’ Watch for the negative self-talk. It is lightning quick, persistent and a critical anger management skill is learning to challenge automatic negative thoughts.
6. Express your anger early in the anger cycle. With awareness, let your anger out using words to express why you are angry. First you must work on self-awareness so you know in the moment when you are becoming angry. Before you get to a 5 on a 10 point scale of anger, address the anger before you escalate into a rage. Instead, be conscious of your anger. It’s the only way to figure out exactly what is making you angry. This step involves learning appropriate assertiveness where you can identify what you need and share that need with others in a nonthreatening way. This approach is far better than either sitting on your anger and stuffing it down. It’s also been shown to be more constructive than exploding in a rage which often spirals out of control.
7. Write. Pull out a piece of paper and write down your frustrations, irritations and annoyances. What is making you mad? Why is it making you mad? There’s no need to hold back here. There’s no need to worry about other people’s feelings. No need to be nice here. The goal of this tool is dump the anger out onto the paper; to release it from your mind. Continue writing until you feel the anger releasing it’s hold on your mind. Numerous studies demonstrate the effectiveness of writing exercises as an anger management tool.
Now let’s turn to a few ways you can shift from a negative (anger) to a positive feeling state (happiness, gratitude, relaxation).
8. Be Grateful. Jot down 5 things for which you are grateful in life.
Write down 5 things which you do well. Note three things that have gone well today and why they went well. For more on this topic, check out a great book, Guide To Self: The Beginner’s Guide to Managing Emotion and Thought. You can pick up a free copy of this award-winning book just for sharing your email address at http://www.GuideToSelf.com! This two-part exercise where you write down what you are angry about followed by what you are grateful for is a powerful tool unlocking the angry mind.
9. Prayer. If you are a religious or spiritual person, it’s frequently helpful to pray to God for assistance and patience during this difficult time. Another approach is to focus on what you are thankful for when you pray. Rather than ask God for more courage, more patience, more of anything, come at the issue as if you already have enough of what you need. For instance, ‘Dear Lord, thank you for giving me the patience and calm necessary to deal with these tough times. Thank you for the ability which you have given me to learn and even thrive in these touch economic times.’ Prayer is a tremendous tool to turn down the volume on anger as it taps into the idea that we are not in complete control of life. Learning to focus on what you can control and what you cannot is integral in effective anger management.
10. Change perspective. Put yourself in the shoes of the person with whom you are angry. See the world from their vantage point. Sometimes we don’t know enough about the person to judge them as good or bad. Sometimes the situation is complicated and a correct decision or action is difficult, if not impossible. This is the strength of empathy. Look at what happened from their viewpoint. The more you practice empathy, the less intense your anger will become. With practice you will come to understand that it is nearly impossible to know enough about another person to judge them, as you haven’t walked every step of their life in their shoes. So we rarely are in a position to judge. Think about how you come across to other people? How would you like to come across? Make a conscious decision today in terms of who you want to be and how you want to behave. Then act as if you are that individual now. Proper perspective is among the most powerful tools for anger management.
11. Self-compassion. While self-esteem has to do with how you feel about yourself generally, self-compassion involves how you treats yourself when things go badly. The goal is to treat yourself with the same type of kindness and compassion that most people extend to loved ones when they fail. When someone else makes a mistake, most people will react with some degree of kindness and understanding. Self-compassion seems to turn down the volume on anger typically associated with huge mistakes while still maintaining your sense of personal responsibility. A 2007 study at Duke University found that ‘inducing self-compassion may decouple the relationship between taking responsibility and experiencing negative affect.’ The way in which you do this is to speak to yourself as if you were a three-year-old child. This allows for mistakes (which is a major path for learning), screw ups, and errors. Self-compassion is related to greater resiliency (the ability to bounce back from difficulty). The best anger management classes include lessons on self-compassion.
12. Act boldly! Make a conscious decision right now that you are going to muster the courage to face and conquer your anger. Check out my free award-winning eBook at http://www.GuidetoSelf.com. Sign up for the anger management skills training course at my site. Learn all the essential skills to turn down the volume on anger AND to turn up the volume on a happier, more fulfilling life.
It’s amazing what some simple skills training can do to:
- turn down the volume on your anger and annoyance
- turn up the volume on happiness
- increase your chances of success
- improve your relationships
The most effective anger management courses include the following powerful core concepts:
- Education around the big three negative emotions (anger, sadness and fear)
- Stress management
- Assertiveness training
- The infusion of positive psychology – positive emotion, meaning and purpose – in your life
- Humor
Check out the myriad of ways in which John Schinnerer, Ph.D., the anger management expert, can help you. Feel free to sign up for some free online anger management classes. You can learn from them in the comfort of your own home (http://www.GuideToSelf.com). All we need is your name and email address for access to tons of free content. By the way, sign up now and receive John’s award-winning 216 page eBook on emotional management for FREE.
About the Author
John Schinnerer, Ph.D., anger management expert, is in private practice teaching men the latest ways to turn down the volume on negative emotions such as anger, anxiety and stress. He also helps guys discover happier, more meaningful lives. His offices are in Danville, California 94526. He graduated from U.C. Berkeley with a Ph.D. in educational psychology. He has been an executive, speaker and coach for over 14 years. John is Founder of Guide To Self, a company that coaches men to happiness and success using the latest in positive psychology. He hosted over 200 episodes of Guide To Self Radio, a daily prime time radio show, in the SF Bay Area. His areas of expertise range from positive psychology, to emotional awareness, to anger management, to coaching men. He wrote the award-winning, “Guide To Self: The Beginner’s Guide To Managing Emotion and Thought,” which is available for FREE right now at http://www.GuideToSelf.com. His blog, Shrunken Mind, was recently recognized as one of the top 3 in positive psychology on the web (http://drjohnblog.guidetoself.com). His new video blog teaches clients concrete tools to manage negative emotions like anger and ways to increase positive emotions (http://drjohnsblog.wordpress.com).
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Dear John
Thank you so much for making the effort to help out guys like me with issues like these. I’ve spent so much time in my house. I’m unable to meet new people due to social anxiety.
I’m too embarrassed and ashamed to go see someone for help. I’ve looked through the first 4 videos and feel better already. This way I can watch and learn from the comfort of my own home!
I really can’t wait to learn more. Thank you, thank you! Please keep up this courageous effort!
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Dear Fred:
So glad you find this helpful. I’ll be adding more free content as I go. Also, the quality of the video production should go up as I get better tools. And I will get better in front of the camera. This first video I wasn’t entirely pleased with as you can tell I’m reading some bullet points off paper. So there’s areas for improvement. Yet I’m extremely passionate about the message and feel it needs to get out there for the betterment of humanity in general. We guys need to evolve our mental and emotional skills to the next level.
In friendship,
John
It is incredibly important for thoughtful, insightful and inspirational leaders like Dr. John to continually remind us of essential truths in new and different ways. It is so easy to go though the daily rituals and routines of our lives and loose track of the really important stuff. Sometimes we don’t realize what is important until it is too late. However, Dr. John is providing a way for those willing to learn, listen and process a way to incorporate the really important things in our every day lives. I look forward to the series and congratulate Dr. John for having the courage to take this bold step to share messages that not everyone may want to or be ready to hear but certainly should be heard.
John,
Thank you for offering something like this for folks, especially a group that may feel uncomfortable addressing any issues they may have, “live” and in person. As an HR professional, this will be amazing to offer to clients so that they may find answers they need without exposing their vulnerabilities.
Once again, you’ve touched folks in your wonderfully non-threatening way by putting yourself out there. Kudos, Dr. John!
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I think the work you’re doing is important for men, since much self-help seems to be directed toward women. And, surely men have their own life issues to tackle! Thanks for your efforts to enrich all of our lives.
John,
I sure appreciate the work that you are doing to help men and how much this help will effect couples and families.
This work in incredibly important.
Thanks for all you’re doing.
Warmly,
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Dr. John, please continue the work you are doing and your sharing it with others. It is so helpful to many families. Today, with all of the pressure and the worries that we face, your message is helpful to both men and women and their families.
Many men have difficulty dealing with their fears, anger, sadness and frustrations and hold their emotions in. Being a father, husband, son and brother is a gift but one that carries with a sense of responsibility that makes it hard for us to get help when we need it. The message on your website and in your videos shows the way to recognize when help is needed and how to find it. That, as you have pointed out, is the first step to dealing with the stress and anger and finding happiness.
Thank you so very much.
Glenn B
I believe the root of anger is hatred, anxiety or frustration as a result of a deception or disappointment in your life.
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Thanks for your post, Glenn! The tools get more powerful, the further you push into the material. I’m really excited about having the frameworks and the tools available online to teach these online anger management courses. Had someone taught me these tools when I was younger, my life would have been SOooOOOooo much easier!
John, Loved your video blog. Also, as a coach who came to this profession after 30 years + in the construction industry- working for and with men, I totally appreciate your focus being on men.
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Thanks for your note! It will be an interesting question to see how many men are up to the challenge! I’ve had just as many men as women sign up for the book and the videos. Still trying to figure that one out!
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Is it OK if I ask something kinda off topic? I’m trying to view this page on my new iPad but it won’t show up properly, do you have any solutions? Should I try and find an update for my software or something? Thanks in advance! Jennine x 
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Founder Guide to Self
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I have to say that your online classes are my first real experience with anger management. I felt that I never needed it. I am currently in an undisclosed prison in the U.S. and serving life for murder.
I am a former member of the Mexican Mafia and have never considered myself an angry person but one person pointed out to me that, of all people, I needed anger management most.
I am a recovering addict. I have been sober for over 6 years now and have found that with sobriety comes clarity.
The strategies that you provided in the first part of this course for coping with anger have already proven to be beneficial. I particularly like the emphasis on turning down the volume on negative emotions and turning up the volume on positive emotions.
The tools included in this course for dealing with anger such as deep breathing, mindfulness, exercise, forgiveness and positive assertiveness are activities that I have never practiced in a formal curriculum. Enhanced with the positive strategies such as self compassion, and prayer provide constructive and pro-social methods to deal with the effects of anger. I’ve only taken the first segment of the videos and read the supporting literature but already know that this is a course that I will complete and carry with me for the rest of my life.
In all of my 29 years in prison I’ve learned one thing – that violence and anger are a language that all convicts speak fluently. Admittedly, violence is the common medium of conflict resolution in jail and unfortunately, no programs exist that provide inmates with a method to deal with these maladaptive behaviors. For most inmates there is a lack of interest in the few groups that address substance abuse or coping skills. It’s as if the pervasive attitude in prison is apathy. But for me discovering this course is truly refreshing.
Though I am eligible for parole, the reality is that there is a very real possibility that I may spend the rest of my life incarcerated. But at least now I will be equipped with coping strategies that will help me deal with being immersed in a world of hostility and violence. I no longer wish to be the man that I once was. When I left the Mexican Mafia that part of me, the alter ego, died.
What remains is the person, the man that I am attempting to become. Fortunately, I found this course and with it I will attempt to reclaim a bit more of my humanity.
Juan(Real name withheld for security purposes)
Note: ‘Juan’ gave me permission to share his response to the anger management program as a comment as long as it was posted anonymously. So no email or real name has been used.
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Dr. John, I thank you for your website. I am trying to get the rest of the males in my family to take this course with me. We have such a great need to stop being mad. My wife has helped me greatly to deal with this. However the rest of my family does not have that help. Perhaps this can save our family. Thanks, john w.
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All the best,
John Schinnerer Ph.D.
When my wife suggested that I needed an anger management course, well, let’s just say that made me…..ANGRY. Not me, I thought. I’m not a violent person, I just get irritated a lot.
With all the reluctance I could muster, I began looking online for suggestions. I stumbled on to Dr. Schinnerer’s site and after watching the preview introduction video, I was sold.
Take this course for your spouse, your children, and if you don’t have someone in your life, do it for your self. Within days I felt like a calmer person and began to have more patience with everyone around me (family, co-workers, even my dogs). My wife began to notice a definite change in me as well. She has commented several times that she is going to take the course too.
This course has helped my marriage and just as important, helped me become a more patient father. Thank You!
I faced being charged with 3rd degree assault on my youngest sister and when i went to court the judge dropped my charge to harrassment and ordered that i take anger management. I hope there is a way i can print out something to prove that i took and completed anger management.
Sorry. Currently, these classes are not set up to offer an anger management certificate for the courts. I am currently working on this. However, any certification that will be offered will be offered after taking the paid course. For more info on the the invaluable 10 week online class on the positive psychology of anger management, please click here Best Online Anger Management Course. The course is currently available for three payments of $99 (or $297).
I hope that helps!
To life, love and laughter,
John Schinnerer, Ph.D.
Founder Guide to Self, Inc.
Award-winning author, blogger and emotion expert
Member, National Speakers Association
Ultimate anger management help! Thanks, Sir.
Certainly critical info for anger management. Genuinely deserves a thumbs up!
Dear John,
I find that when my boyfriend and I fight, I get angry but I find myself going overboard with my anger. Sometimes the fights turn into physical fights on my behalf. I would really like you to email me and let me know some techniques to help me not want to hit my fiance’ . I love him but when we fight and i get abusive, we drift apart. Please John, I am begging you for some help.
Sincerely,
Dont want to be angry anymore.
You’re so awesome! My partner and i don’t suppose there is anything this helpful anywhere else on the web! So excellent to locate someone who has such authentic and useful thoughts on the topic of anger management! Really… thank you for this. We definitely need more of this sort of thing on the web – somebody with a bit of originality, a heartfelt and beneficial project for helping others get through life!
wow are you kidding me? lol. so you mean that i went through this whole thing for nothing? no really, I’m just kidding. To life love and laughter. thank you. you don’t know how helpful you were to me.
Dear Mr. Schinnerer,
My name is Annie and I am eleven years old. I have had some major anger issues for a very long time and I keep telling my Mom and Dad that I need anger management classes, but they have never signed me up for any. Today, I had a few angry fights with my Mom. I was so fed up with getting grounded constantly because I couldn’t control my anger. So, I don’t really know why I waited this long to look up “free online anger management classes” on the Internet, but tonight I finally did. I decided tonight that I want to take online classes so my Mom and Dad wouldn’t know I was taking them so I can surprise them by gradually handling angry situations better! I’m so excited to start these classes! I hate not being able to control my anger. It’s not fun. The longest I’ve ever gotten grounded is a month without sweets. It was HORRIBLE! But that was about four years ago. Now when I get grounded it is from electronics because I am a total technology whizgeek. Anyways, I really feel like I am going to get a fresh start with these classes! I am super duper excited! Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, Mr. Schinnerer! I really, really appreciate this and I honest and truly feel like this will help me! THANK YOU!
Hi Annie!
. Hope that helps!
Did you get the free copy of my book? That may be useful to you as well. It’s written so anyone with an 8th grade reading level can understand it. I think you will dig it the most! If not, visit http://www.GuideToSelf.com, click on the yellow book icon & enter your name & email address. You will get instant access to the book. You will also get sent 4-5 emails that will direct you back to these videos (nothing is perfect!).
Let me know how it goes for you. Remember it takes time & practice. Be patient. Things will improve!
John S.
Read the book, and just started the videos. It took wrecking an absolutely awesome relationship to show me how screwed up I was. Your work has helped me stop being angry/suicidal and start genuinely improving myself. Thank you
Anger management training is necessary for many people to be effective at work, for healthy relationships with colleagues, at homes.
Hello Dr. Schinnerer
I am almost 40 and I constantly find myself irritated about something or in a foul mood. When I offer critacizm to my children they get frusterated becouse it is not helpful, and complain often that I lecture them for a very long time. My fiance tells me constantly that my anger often steals the fun from many of our family activities.
I feel like I tell people what is wrong, and that when they dont listen I get mad, but is my anger equal in volume to the situation? Does it need to be delt with now ? I can feel very unimportant, and unappreciated, and it adds to my sense of worthlessnes. I provide for my family, I contribute, but when I start to hurt I withdraw for long periods of time.
I am starting to get something out of your angermanagment classes, but I just started watching your stuff. I will write more as I notice change. Thank you for offering a free class so that I may positivly change myself, and hopefully before I do to much damage to my children and fiance. My anger makes them shy, I want them to be free and happy.
I am new to this site and I like what I see sofar. I plan to make these techniques work as I have been angry and dissapointed with myself for far toooo long. Ever since my moto-bike accident over 20 years ago, I have costantly dwelled on what I did not achieve and how now things are so much more difficult for me both physically and mentally. These things have led to my unhappyness and thus manger issues. We this free online info. I will change for the better.
ps. See about making the website font larger and easier to read.When posting also